Confidence isn't something you're born with, it's something you build

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with... it’s something you build.

When I look at this photo, my first thought is: that’s a good-looking bike. And I look pretty competent and relaxed sitting on it, don’t I?

But that’s not the whole story.

What you’re seeing is the result of many elements coming together:

• A fantastic bike 

• Well-fitted clothing and protective gear 

• Hours of riding practice 

• An amazing professional photographer thank you darren jacklin 

• And… some old fears I had to face along the way

The truth is, I love big bikes, always have... but felt nervous even on mopeds. Three years ago, I had a panic attack trying to overcome my fear of mopeds.

My solution? Do things properly.

I enrolled for my A1 licence here in Germany, where the standards are high and the training thorough. It took thousands of euros, many hours of lessons, and most importantly: 

A patient and skilled instructor who I trusted, who believed in me and knew just when to push me out of my comfort zone and when to step back and go easy. 

Of course it also took determination to pass, and yes there were days when I seriously considered giving in.

Since then, I’ve committed to riding every week, as long as the weather allows, to keep building my confidence.

Why did I go to all that effort?

It wasn’t just one reason. It was a mix of negative and positive motivators:

• Shame: a sense of frustration that I couldn’t do something so many people, young and old, manage with ease, especially in Asia where bikes are everyday transport.

• Desire: to expand my world, to feel more free and independent, to be able to head out on my own for summer evening rides.

And here’s where this connects with my work helping introverted scientists speak up in English.

Learning the words and grammar is only part of it. To ‘look the part’ and speak with ease in a high-stress environment (a meeting, a presentation, a conference), you need far more:

• You need to face the fears that hold you back.

• You need to know how to present yourself and sound confident.

• You need practical tools to manage anxiety.

• You need someone on your side helping you to relax so you can perform at your best.

When all those parts come together, something shifts. You ‘ride’ with more ease. People respond differently to you. You’re seen, heard and taken seriously.

That’s exactly what I help my clients achieve:

• Language skills (vocabulary, grammar, clear expression)

• Identifying and overcoming fear

• Building authentic confidence

• Working on image, tone, and presence

• Providing coaching and support along the way

You can know your science inside out, but without these skills, your voice won’t always carry. Get them right, and people will hear you and take notice.

It’s never just about the bike. And it’s never just about the English.